Now, before I get wound up, let me preface this. I am NO expert on any of this. I do feel that God created me with some innate slant toward hospitality/hostessing/girlfriending/gabbing, but this is just me being me. Please hear where I'm coming from with all of this...this is not a how-to, or a suggestion, or a show off...but goodness, if it's the gentle nudge you need to figure out your own innate slant, your own giftedness, and find your people and share that with them, well, sweet.
The Commonality of the Human Experience. This is it. When we learn this, when we accept this, when we embrace THIS, the rest gets real easy, real fast. The Commonality of the Human Experience - or...Everybody's Poop Stinks - or...Yeah, Me Too - or...The Absense of Shock and Awe - this is the secret to the ability to be vulnerable, which is the secret to community.
Someone, somewhere sold the lie that your specific kind of crazy is the kind no one else will relate to. It's just not true. This is the thing that I'm most certain about: when you get brave and tell or whisper or write that thing that holds you back from being vulnerable with your people and then brace yourself for the 'Oh wow!!' or flinch or awkward laugh - you'll be left waiting. It just won't come (if the right people are across your table, and if they made it to your table, they're the right people.) It won't come. You'll get a 'Oh, thank God, me too!' or a 'Oh honey, that blows, I'm so sorry.' or a 'Damn, what can we do?'. You'll be so disappointed you didn't deliver the biggest shock of their lives.
You see, it's all the same. My short fuse temper and your phone addiction and her post-partum depression and that one's general, constant irritation toward her husband (or all of the above depending on the day), well, that's what mid 30's raising a family just looks like! Or take it bigger: my mom's cancer, and her son's reading delays, her husband's possible job loss, and that one's looming doctor's appointment...even the big stuff, if at the right table, still just receives hugs, and 'what can I do's', and 'dude, that sucks.'
Maybe you're in a season where it all feels big! I promise that it'll feel smaller, more manageable, if you'll share it. Maybe you're in a season where it all feels rosy! Then spread some cheer, be an ear for someone. Basically, get over yourself - God made you special and unique, but not THAT unique. Your crazy is no better than anyone else's. Promise.